Where in midtown will you be working? That is a crucial variable. e.g. midtown east is much harder to get to vs. midtown west since Times Square basically has all the subway lines going through it.

Unless there is a direct subway line from Astoria to your office I would recommend against it. My friend lives there but she doesn't work in Manhattan and usually takes an uber into the city which I doubt you want to do everyday.

Based on what you said, I think you'd really like the Upper West Side. The access to the parks is a godsend, especially if you have dogs. It's not dead by any means, but it's not a nightlife hub at all, and there's a lot of families around which gives it a much more relaxed vibe. You'll have easy access to Midtown for work as well, and if you do want to occasionally have some fun, Hell's Kitchen isn't far.

I will disclaim that I don't know Brooklyn or Queens particularly well because I'm a basic Manhattan bitch that never leaves, but friends who live there tend to always say good things.

Greenpoint, LIC, east Williamsburg are all good Brooklyn based options too. Being on the L is great, and lots of good stops in between here and Manhattan. Not too bad of a commute from BK to Midtown East too. More green space in BK, coming from someone who’s been in bk for 4-5 years after about 6-7 in Manhattan

Your work is pretty centrally located, which opens up lots of possibilities for you. Upper East and Upper West sides are both generally more chill, as are parts north. If you want a bigger visible queer presence, they might not bring that vibe for you, though. I never lived in Queens so can’t be much help there. Hell’s Kitchen seems like a nightmare to live in, by comparison, if you’re moving away from that drinking/nightlife culture.

For me personally, I’d juggle the length of my commute I wanted (aka extra time away from pup) and rent I could afford, alongside the other considerations you’ve listed. Since I also have a little pup, I’d also mention here that many of the dog parks/runs in the city are mixed size runs (large and small dogs together), which can be a challenge for small dog owners.

While different neighborhoods (and even streets within neighborhoods) have their own vibes, the city is fluid and connected enough that you can find what you’re looking for without going too far.

Feel free to send me a message if I can help with any more specific questions. If not, good luck with your move!

I'm not into the party lifestyle anymore, but my friends who are speak highly of the app RA Guide; we used it to find karaoke in Berlin. Not sure how great it is for NYC, but worth checking out.

Search the r/avesNYC sub for 18+ parties or venue suggestions!

For shows: SOBs, Bowery Ballroom, Mercury Lounge, Elsewhere, Fat Cat, Arlene's Grocery, Webster Hall, Trans Pecos, Property is Theft are just some of the venues that have all ages shows (gotta check their websites to confirm).

https://nyc-noise.com/ if that's ur scene

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I saw some flyers for red eye throwing a party called Dungeon. Live DJ and I’m 95% sure there is a dark room there. I think there is a small cover tho ~5-10 bucks. I think that’s where my gaggle of gays is gonna be tonight

Hi! Im also in nyc, and wanted to experience the scene. Lemme know what you did last night 🫡

Anything for tonight?

Dykman/inwood

I just be on the block but Strip clubs for queens tho🔥

Mark my words yung bulls, when ya get older get ya passports and explore the world. The royalty treatment and the amount of pussy you can get in certain places just for having an American passport is ridiculous, u won't even want to know about NYC after u visit places like Jamaica, Ghana, Nigeria, Colombia, Brazil, DR, Costa Rica, Panama, etc.

Wash heights dug

jungle bird in chelsea is a queer/woman owned cocktail bar! and given it's chelsea which is very gay in general, it should be fun.

Jungle Bird and Cubbyhole are both great options.

Karaoke in the East Village

https://maps.app.goo.gl/C1SxLWUiRojDJ5Kz9

For an outsider visiting, I would definitely recommend House or Yes, Elsewhere, Nowadays

Pumps

Elsewhere, Nowadays

house of yes, bossa nova

Avant Gardner is the big venue in the city that will have more well known artists performing. Elsewhere is a smaller slightly more underground version of that. House of Yes is a ton of fun where the focus is as much on the costumes/vibe as it is the music. The other places folks are mentioning (Pumps is a strip club FYI) are fun too.

The Eagle might be a good fit. Jockstrap Wednesdays are very socia and sexy. Sunday Beer Blast is a casual and social hang on the rooftop deck. I think you could have fun and meet people as a solo person at both these events. It turns into a huge dance party on Friday and Saturdays, which is very fun (and upstairs still remains cruisy) but if you are looking to strike up a conversation with someone (as opposed to just dancing and making out with them haha) then it would be more difficult those nights.

been to the Eagle solo a few times during their Jockstrap Wednesdays and despite me being asian and on the chubbier side, I managed to have a lot of fun! I think it’s a good fit for you

Go to eagle on a Wednesday. That’s a good time. I feel like that’s a good spot to go solo.

Also, just curious if anyone has ever been to any of the GBU parties? Do they tend to attract a certain crowd or more mixed/diverse?

https://wickedgayparties.com/ has listings for many sex parties and there’s also https://gaysexinnyc.wordpress.com/