how long till i can get married??? i’m trying to win sebastian over����

I don't even know how I did it, but I romanced Sebastian and I am marrying him in spring year one.

My irl husband knew I was going to marry Sebastian even before I did. Something about the introverted guy who plays dnd but is super sweet when you know him. I guess I have a type.

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This is my first play through. I didnt have the greenhouse by my first winter, so I was spending more time with the npcs. Sebastian spends so much time in his room it was hard to get to know him. I remember waiting outside his bedroom door all day on his birthday.

Then I got my first cutscene and found out he is working on his computer all day. I felt so bad that nobody respects his job, so I never bothered him while he was working. I would literally sit on the couch in his room just chilling until he took a break.

I spent the next year and a half getting to know him. I liked his dialogue, how much you can learn about his family dynamic and how he dreams of moving to the big city. Its cool to see him playing music with Sam, or teasing that he will beat him at pool.

The ttrpg cut scene cemented that I wanted to be friends/more with this guy. I had a lot of fun.

Then came the first time he carelessly said something that broke my heart. We ran into each other on the beach, it was raining. It was awkward and adorable and when we shared the umbrella, I decided I wanted to romance him. Then I spoke to him after the event ended. "The ocean is best enjoyed alone, dont you think?"

I was a little upset, but then the next day he said "why am I grinning? I guess I've been unusually happy lately" and I melted again.

I decided to give him a boquet on the last day of summer. That way we'd be dating in the fall when its beautiful and it seems to be his favorite season. Plus the dance of the moonlight jellies is the most romantic festival.

Then he took me out to look at the city. It was a nice gesture but I couldnt help but realize that being with me was the opposite of what he'd always wanted. I live on a farm, which he used to say would be ridiculous for someone like him. He yearns for the world outside of stardew valley.

I ignored the warning signs. I thought it would be fine. He did seem like he was happier these days. Happy with me. So I proposed on his birthday, and he said "in a couple days I'll be living on a farm. I cant believe it. I'm happy, though"

After our wedding, he immediately starts talking about "cant forget about the farm" and it feels wrong. One morning, he says "I couldnt sleep last night so I went for a ride on the motorcycle. I need to stay independant, even though we're married. Thats just how I am. I still love you, though" there it was again. "Though" tacked on at the end. It felt like he was trying to damage control letting his true feelings show. The last sentence sounded like a lie, but I dont think its malicious. I think he was lying to himself thinking he'd ever be happy here.

Another one that stood out to me was "well, this place sure beats my old basement room, doesnt it" it felt like an acknowledgment that he was settling. Its not zuzu city, but its something.

Some days he says he fed the animals or watered the crops. All my animals have auto feeders and all my crops have sprinklers. I wonder what hes hiding.

I talked to him in his side room and he said hes debating whether to work or read comics all day. I take a look around and realize he never even brought his computer. He could have kept his job, but he gave it up for the farm.

I start imagining a world where we break up and he moves to the city. I'd probably still see him around town when he visits Robin.

But then he says the sweetest things too. "Never forget that I love you" "you look great today" but sometimes I hear a spark of regret behind "I don't really need friends. Youre the only person I need in my life"

On the day before the egg festival, he said he was looking forward to seeing Sam. We dont even live that far outside of town and hes completely isolated himself. It hurts every time he says he is happier with me around because every other part of our life together feels wrong. He can be so kind and romantic, but it just makes me feel guiltier.

Now, all he says is "why do you keep bothering me? I'm trying to forget about you"

Today I decided to tell Sebastian I have romanic feelings for him after I got 8 hearts with him in the game. Reason why I'm going for Sebastian you may ask? Because he reminds me of my IRL fiance, and I thought it'd be cute if I married a version of him in the game 💕

I told my fiance about my love for Sebastian because he reminds me of him, and let's just say he was VERY flattered by this, and also thought it was adorable.

I took some screenshots of what I was doing so that I could text them to said fiance while he was at work, cause I know he'd love to see what I was doing.

After I told Sebastian my feelings, since it was raining in game, I decided to do some fishing next to his house lol. So overall, great day on Stardew :3

Am I missing something?
I reached 14 hearth with him, he receives a present every day, I talk to him 3 times a day, I also have a crib.
The only kid we have is a frog.

Before I got the game I was sure in my soul that I would romance Sebastian. When I got the game I began doing just that but you see, it was taking too long and I somehow managed to get to 8 heart with 2 other characters one of them being Sam, and Sam… he grew on me. Something about his heart scenes or his silly little portraits got to me. I ended up giving him a bouquet spontaneously because at that point stubborn bum bum Sebastian was still at 6 heart even though I was borderline stalking him and religiously shoving quarts in his face twice a week. Sam’s 10 heart event was the first time my goal of marrying Sebastian has waivered because?? It’s so cute?? Oh my god?? im now at 10 hearts with both of them and Sebastian’s scene was cute, but no matter how much I might not want to admit it, I might have liked Sam’s more argh… idk I still adore Sebastian and every time I see him waddling around in his little winter outfit I’m reminded of why I wanted to wife him up. I really don’t know which one I want more ugh but either way it’s winter now so I have until the end of the season to decide. Smone please try away me to a solid side 🙏🙏

My mom is playing Stardew, and Sebastian, her characters spouse, isn't asking for a kid. She has the nursery, has viewed ALL of Sebastian's heart events, including his 14 heart one, and she's been married to him for over a year. Anything she's doing wrong? I got her into the game and even I'm stumped. I had no problems with it on one of my playthroughs.