Have you thought of posting flyers across campus (maybe you'll need to ask permission from the authorities) as advertisement for your sorority? Creating a page on any/multiple social media platforms and mentioning them on the flyers is a plus. Maybe you can talk to you're friends because there's a good chance that they'll know someone/some people that will fit in your sorority, accordingly. Other than that, I don't know anything much this, but I'm trying my best to help you out. If you need help with posting flyers (if you get the chance) then I'll be glad to help out. Good luck!

Sororities/Fraternities are just the dumb man's way of pretending like they're doing something bigger than themselves. Drinking/fucking doesn't make you a good person. Go contribute to the scientific body of knowledge. Go do some charitable work domestically or globally. Start a club on campus.

There's a million better ways to contributing to humanity, and a sorority isn't one of those ways

it takes a lot to start a sorority, you would need help from another organization who will take you under their wing and teach you how it is done. Its not only about the friendships which is kinda harsh to hear, sororities are like any other club. they have meetings, chapter events, a philanthropy events and much much more. they have teams of people who run the organization its literally a lot of hard work and dedication. I have friends who are apart of greek life so I know. Its so much better for you to join an existing one on campus

Yet another soiree for envy, gossips, manipulation, betrayal, jealousy, drama and all that female friendship crap is about. Instead of focusing on studies.

Why be discreet? Recruitment is 90% of Greek Life. If you’re trying to start a chapter you’ll need some major assistance from a National organization’s IHQ looking to found a colony

Which org? I started one at my university if u want to contact me😊

Congrats!! Chartering is a lot of work.

What orgs?

Get in contact with the national org for whichever sorority you want to found and they will walk you through the process.

I was involved in Greek life and my experience has led me to believe that Greek life gives you a bunch of opportunities to become more of the person that you already were to begin with. So if you’re a faithful Catholic, the Greek life will help you grow into that, and conversely if you’re a party animal or a person who engages in a sinful lifestyle then you’ll get plenty of opportunities to develop that too.

Why would it be bad to have a tight knit group of friends?

Greek life in the movies is terrible but in real life, greek life is awesome.  Enjoy it. Go to church with your sorority sisters. 

I think joining a catholic or religious student association would be better with less obligation/hazing rituals.

Coming from someone who has been on the other end of the hazing thing. Don’t do it, I got it in the military and get benefits and payed for it. 

Also there are no benefits besides drinking and partying, also you have to pay to be there and the people in them are not great 

I've heard plenty of stories of people that spent their life without doing "the bad stuff" (as you said, getting drunk, sex before marriage, etc), and once they are exposed to that huge surge of dopamine, they are hooked. This mainly happens with people that have done the correct thing without wanting it, their parents told them to do it, etc. Is that your case ? Why have you never drunk/smoked/gone to parties ? You have to be honest with yourself.

Also, plenty of sororities and university "groups" do things behind closed doors, without anyone knowing. Can you join one and quit at any time? If that's the case, make sure you have thick skin and a backbone, as people can be manipulative when you want to leave. If you can't quit at any time, I would personally not join one.

Also be prepared to be made fun of. Not saying it will happen, but it can. Do you have the social capacity to defend yourself and tease them back? Do you have the wits? It's not enough to just "roll with the punches" because you would basically join a sisterhood. If you can't defend what you believe in, you might be eaten alive, as they say. Plenty of people fall into peer pressure.

I think it depends on the school. My alma mater is pretty stereotypical sorority girl. There are a couple “lower tier” chapters (including mine) that might be a little more welcoming to someone more diverse, but the vast majority involved in Greek life are cis/white/hetero/ conservative/looks base etc. The bottom house are considered “bottom” by and large because they are more inclusive. I find it really gross. So much so that my youngest daughter is a current student there and I advised against going through recruitment. On the flip side, my other daughter’s university had lgbtq members in almost every Greek house. It was no biggy. Search out your school’s social media. See if you can get a vibe from there. Ask around. Like others have said you might want to invest in going through formal recruitment just to get a feel for things. If you feel like it’s not for you then no need to go through with it. But you might find a connection somewhere. I really depends on the school though.

Focus on the chapter that want you back and whoever doesn’t just let them pass. I think people feel better the more chapters they get back or the certain chapters they get back, but how strong your chapter is doesn’t really matter past college. You want sisters for life, not sisters for now.

There is nothing more queer coded than a club filled with only women focused on education, female friendships, and philanthropy (pretty feminist when these were first formed). My sister and I both learned in separate orgs at very different schools that our lgbtq sisters weren’t always out, but they were there. I came out at birth but my sister didn’t come out until her sorority sisters did.

Agree. Go through the recruitment process with an open mind. If you are finding a fit, wonderful. If you feel midway through like you'd rather try something else, you have a choice. Either way, you'll meet lots of other PNMs who will end up in every house by the end.

I would not focus on rumors about cliques...chapters change over time and some people are more or less clique-y than others. Be a friendly person and you will make friends.

Okay. I'm a masculine bisexual woman and also autistic. I had a lot of reservations about Greek life and "judgement" but ultimately it was my identity that made me decide to stay. This is going to sound so so silly but ask yikyak for their opinions on "nerdy girl" sororities on your campus because that genuinely was what brought me to my house and I could not be happier. Not only that but I made friends with girls who went to OTHER nerdy houses and strong PHC connections matter!! Even if you don't make friends in your sorority immediately you will still have girls from recruitment to bond with.

I feel like everyone on here would say yes it’s worth it haha! It’s definitely worth a try and you can always leave if you realize it’s not your thing. Asking if girls in sororities are nice and asking what kind of people are there is really broad. It’s like asking “are people nice at college”? Well some of them are mean and some of them are the nicest people you’ll ever meet, it just depends. Same thing with the people, there’s TONS of different people who join, typically it’s no one size fits all. I won’t lie as there are certainly some chapters who look for a “specific type of girl” and you should waste your time on shallow stuff like that.

The last two questions depend on your college. If you compare Alabama rush with their own houses to a smaller northern school without houses. it’s very different experiences. It’s not hard to get in but a lot of girls give up half way because they don’t get into the “top” or most popular house.

If you are remotely interested, you should go through rush! If nothing else, you will get a good sense of sorority life, you'll meet interesting people (both the members and the other girls going through rush) and you'll grow as a person. You will need to find out the financials (sororities usually post those on the Panhellenic website) since they can be costly depending on the school.

im an entirely different person since joining. not in the sense that ive changed myself to fit in but ive just been able to grow as a person because of the support from my sisters. im much more confident in myself and my abilities and i can definitively say it’s because of my sorority. i am so happy with who i have become. genuinely i believe we make each other so much better and i will forever be grateful for them. admittedly, i don’t think my experience with greek life is going to be universal because i go to a small school with a small chapter (roughly 40 girls). if you’re at a SEC school it’ll probably be an entirely different vibe but i know each and every one of my sisters. we are all so close and it’s definitely a more intimate experience with our chapter size. i think if you’re thinking about it, it’s worthwhile to rush. even if you don’t end up joining, the experience of rush is really unique and fun to go through. you may still end up making friends and have ties to sororities without actually being in one! i still talk to some of the girls from my rush group despite not being in the same sororities!

I was like you; I thought it was worth it and legitimately it was. I learned valuable skills I don’t think I could have gotten elsewhere, and I have lifelong friends. These are women I genuinely could, out of the blue, hit them up and ask to go visit them.

I think the important thing to note is to give women grace. We’re beautiful, we’re kind, we’re mean, we’re shallow. We are allowed to be perfect and imperfect. The meanness other might assume us to be is the meanness of humanity, not of us wearing X letters. You will learn to live with and rely on the mean girls as much as the nice ones.

I recommend it based on my experience but you also have to ask realistic questions like will you have the time and money to dedicate to it.

I was lucky and went to a small school. It was free to go through recruitment and dues were $50/month. The local sororities were like $10/month but paid for formal out of pocket. I was very low income in college but managed. If I was at a state or southern school where it cost say $200 to go through recruitment and hundreds to thousands a month for dues, I probably wouldn't have because that was a ton of money to me.

Some sorority girls are mean, but it's such a wide swing of people that many are also the nicest people you will meet. If you are a shy or awkward person, joining can give you the opportunity to expand your social skills. I was the weird art girl in high school and many of my sisters could be described as the same. We had a lot of theater students in my chapter.

Go to fraternity and sorority life on your campus, I bet they have a running interest list that they have shared/are sharing with the advising chapter. You can also check the regions website and email to ask how to get info about the new chapter.

The graduate chapter would be in (or close to) the city where your campus is located. If you go to the sorority’s website and use the chapter locator, you should be able to find it. Once you do, you can find its website and see when it’s having events you can attend and activities in which you can participate.

I would say find the grad chapter for the city/community you’re in and ask them as they will likely be the grad advising chapter. If not they should be able to point you in the right direction.

A second option could be asking your schools Greek life person

Use social media to figure out what grad chapter is associated with the UG chapter. Sometimes G chapters will highlight their UGs on IG, FB, etc…

Another option is building a connection with faculty members/professors who might be members of the SOI.

You’re welcome! I’m not sure how your college is structured, but most universities require a faculty member to serve in some sort of advisory role. Odds are there is a faculty member/professor who will be knowledgeable on the details of the line.

My friend started a tea club, apparently you just gotta communicate with student council or something and have people showing up

I've been through this process over the last couple of years with an org. Mine was sponsored through a campus dept and is the student outreach arm. The biggest struggle we have had is recruitment and getting members to stay involved. Our big key to recruitment has been our sponsoring office tabling during orientation and a big event during Gold Rush (1st 2 weeks of the fall). For me, I have been focused on building the org. Our next president is going to take the foundation I built and then refine it to make it even better.

Focus on turning interest into action. Almost every club will have a large amount of interest, but very few people actually show up to meetings and events. You need to give them something they can invest themselves in to get something back from the club so they keep showing up.

i don’t know but you better not copy my shower thought club idea 😠

We should start planning a meet up of everyone who wants to join. Maybe we do a pub get together and start the planning?

I think "The Ancient Order of the Exalted Racoon" is what it has to be for a Toronto based secret society. Alternatively...

The Ancient Order of the Exalted Trash Panda

Sounds like a proposition for a cult. 😂

I would love this, I love world building and story telling, etc

Sure and we all promise once we have more power we help each other its like our own illuminati thing

Either of these sound good to me. I know it's going to be tough to coordinate schedules so should we start throwing out dates to see what works for everyone? I'm free any night during the week except Wednesday, and can be free weekend afternoons.

High everything. You think you're gonna join a sorority with stats like that?

What is your popularity? Also, I'm going to go out on a limb and say if the first 14 didn't work, the next 14 won't 🤣

High Looks, High Smarts, Moderately High Popularity.

become popular by joining the swim team or something and get the question right

One way to boost your chances is if you become friends with someone at your university who is in a sorority. Then, try joining that friend's sorority.