So, I kinda just asked… I sent a really light message: “I know it’s unexpected, but I kinda like you.” At the next friend gathering, he invited his ex… So, I hope you’ll have more luck than I did. Still, I’m glad I told him—because I don’t like having thoughts and guesses boiling in my head.

Rizzler: “Wanna upgrade this situationship to an actual date?”

Golden Retriever Type: “Hey, I kinda like you… wanna grab tacos soon?”

Unmatch: “Let’s stay homies—feelings are messy and I hate sad vibes.”

"hey, we clearly make awesome friends.. but you should know I'm also interested in the romantic side. I'd love to take you on a romantic date if you're open to it. If you prefer keeping this purely at the friendship level -- that of course works great too."

"Would you like to go on a date?"

‘man I rly wanna go on a date its been so long😒😒’ see if he takes that as a hint and if he is interested too then hell take it as an opportunity and if not THEN IT WAS JUST A COMMENT NOT SPEFICIALLY MEANT TOWARDS HIM 🤩

Call cellphone

Ive personally just do it casually in conversations

“I’m going to see insert event on Saturday. Want to join me? It will be fun!”

Come out with a date pitch and pitch it. Don't be generic. Don't ask if they want to go out sometime. Give them an activity and a time. If they say no and don't try to reschedule or suggest a different activity, assume they're not interested. Otherwise work together to come up with a plan.

Just ask and don't be weird about it

With words

Hey, party pooper, let’s go to _____.

You call the shots. Just make sure she isn’t married or is dating some goon. Showing confidence is the key.

Plan an activity. Ask the other person to join you on said activity.

It's just a date.  You aren't proposing marriage,  so if they say no,  bummer, but on to the next one. 

a girl asking a guy out?

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Dont do it in public (putting them on the spot), it's just a bad idea

Say this " I'm gonna get dinner, wanna come?"

Ask her if she wants to go halves on an abortion

A letter or confidence

Once you feel comfortable enough, just simply ask her or him out in person in a passionate way. Do not do what I did. I asked my now gf out over Snapchat while she was thousands of miles away.

“Hey would you like to go eat after school tomorrow?”

Hi, yes/no. Bye/see you later. There is no recipe. If you fit the needs of other - you don't need to try alot. If you don't - theres no point of trying to prove yourself - just move on.

Just do it. If you think is a big deal, it will be. And it is not. I know it can be hard, and it is easier said than done but, what you can do, if you are extremely scared, is to tell somebody that you are going for a walk or going somewhere. And ask if that person wants to go with you. If not, no problem, you still go because you don't need anybody. If the person accepts, well. Have fun.

But what I will do is, just ask. The worse that can happen is "No" + "a silly excuse".

Hope it helps

Left, Right, Left, Right, Stop. Open Mouth. Move Vocal Cords. Close Mouth. Await Response. Hold Back Tears. Turn. Left, Right, Left, Right, Run

Black mail his or her mother to convince them that you are a good party.

be chilled and just ask! Give an offer like "fancy grabbing a coffee or watching a movie this weekend?" and if the answer is positive, suggest a time and a meeting place. The hardest part is deciding to actually ask. Just dive in If the answer isn't positive, thats ok too, just politely move the conversation on to something neutral.

I (25m) mean I point blank asked out thus guy (23m) on grindr... Just asked if he'd want to get drinks. Then we turned it into food. You never can know but we're having a second date this week over video because of Corona. Just shoot your shot. Plus a video date is less pressure of you already have someone in mind.

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Whatever someone tells you on here won't be genuine to you and it'll come off weird.

Be genuine and do it however you have to in your own way. You'll get better at it, since it came from you, and it'll just add to your socialization. A useful skill.

Wanna grab coffee from Starbucks?

>How EXACTLY does one ask someone out?

Hey [insert name], ¿Want to go [insert activity that she could enjoy] someday?

>How do you know if she will actually want to go out with you and doesn't want to friendzone you?

1- Unless you know her before hand and have some kind of relationship (social or romantic) you won't be able to know if she wants to, and even if you're in a relationship with she sometimes it won't work as planned.

2- Friendzone isn't a thing.

You just ask. Look, here’s the thing, the first couple of times you ask someone out, it’s terrifying. It does get easier though every time. But you know what’s more terrifying? Not asking and always wondering. Just fucking do it. The first time I asked a girl out she said no and it was exhilarating because I felt so good about myself that I had the courage to ask.

Do you want to go out?

I once declared my love for a girl by writing "I Love You" on her front lawn in flames, but the wind picked up and oh god it was horrible, just horrible.

“Hey! How are you? that shirt looks great on you. how was your weekend? did you sleep well? when are we gonna fuck already i’m not asking any more useless questions?”

You go over it in your head countless times over the course of weeks, possibly months, maybe even a couple years, overthinking all the possible ways you'll get rejected. You keep telling yourself you're going to do it but are too chicken shit to go through with it. Some nights you have a little too much to drink and you get some of that whiskey courage that takes you right to the edge of asking but the adrenaline rush you get the moment before you press send sobers you up just enough for you to convince yourself what you're about to do is a huge mistake.

i mean haaha just ask lol.

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My best play is after a good set with a girl, on a high note I'll say "Hey I've got to run, but I'd love to talk to you again.."
Then I hand her my phone on the create contact screen.

Works like a charm.

If you're doing well in a spot and don't have to leave, gauge her interest in you. If she's at an 8+, figure out her hobbies and schedule.

"What kind of hobbies are you into?"

"What's your schedule look like this week?"

Now you have the logistics to plan a date on the spot. leverage HER interests and invite her when she said she was free to do X hobby that she likes.

Even better if your friends and her friends witness this because now she has social pressure to both a) agree to the date b) show up to protect her reputation in the eyes of your and her friends.

The more you and her know each other and friend network the more pressure on her reputation to both treat you well and show up to the date.

This minimizes her bitch shield and allows her to relax and give you the best possible chance of her enjoying the time together. A lot of early dating is getting the girl to get our of her own way and give you a real chance at seducing her.

Also work on your playful fun social skills so you deliver a 10/10 emotionally engaging experience.

Do all this, and she'll be calling you Casanova and bragging to her friends about Prince Charming.

If you’re friends with her just shoot her a quick text and be like “hey would you wanna hang this week?“ if you think she wouldn’t know it was date, you could specify too

Ask her if she’d be interested in getting coffee with you or something else that’s simple & casual.

In the first minute they know whether their attracted to you or not so just do it bro

Ask if she wanna go watch a movie

if you already have a rapport from talking ask her out to lunch/dinner, like “hey wanna get lunch sometime?”

Be straight forward. The more you beat around it the more confused they could become, leading it to be more awkward.

"Hey, wanna go out on a date?"

Male here, I always found useful to casually drop a drink/ ice cream or something not very engaging (a stroll, a shopping day out) in a nice and friendly conversation. E.g. if your crush is into pets then you perhaps can go to a local pet store you know a Saturday afternoon, and you see how it goes from there

"Bitch, you wannaa get smashed and fuck?"

I don't. Never have, probably never will.

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you are on the right track about not asking strangers in dates,that will probably come across as creepy. Are you asking how you actually ask the question or how you find someone to ask?

Wait a few days (maybe a week or two) and see if the person you have a crush on also has some symbols in their personality or actions that they might also like you. If so, go for it. But be wary that it’ll make conversations awkward if they reject you and you both interact with each other often

Assuming you have been talking to this person previously... Plan the date out ahead so you can go "Hey, I've got tickets to Blank, would you like to go get dinner at blank then head to blank?"

With an orchestra, y’know, chill.

"Have you ever ate dinner"

Barbershop quartet 

Hey. I've seem to have lost my phone number. May I have yours?

How about:

Not sure of your relationship status but if you are single, maybe we could go for a drink this Fri?

I’d put down a specific day so it’s not one of those yeah sure, one day…

Good luck!

Update, I sent the message and he said yes! Thanks guys for the encouragement. That’s the first time I’ve done that in the wild!

I don't necessarily like to think this way, but I would specify "if you're single, would you like to go out for a drink?" Not all married people would decline an invitation from an attractive acquaintance.

Absolutely. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Okay, I’m going to jump in and do this! I’ll come back and let you know how I get on

I think you know the answer man.

You could say something along the lines "Pfff, if you asked me out I'd say yes in instant".

Its friendly but not too obvious.

Usually "hey i like you, you want to hang out sometime?"

Then wait for the no

It will be difficult, but when you're with them somewhere ask if they want to go out. Just the ability of yourself to ask in person will make your chances just that much better. Way more than over text. Plus it's harder for them to say no in person.

I live in Wisconsin, and my girlfriend LOVES cheese. And so I bought a cheese grater, cheese cutting board, and a lunch box full of cheese and make a sign saying “this may be cheesy, but I think you’d be a “grate” girlfriend.” She loved it

“Ayo girl u want sumadis DICK?”

Just walk up to them and press the A button

Have a plan when you do it, if i where you and me being a guy if i was asked out by a girl i would not want the pressure of trying to think of an activity, if you are asking you think of the thing. and yes be direct, dudes are dumb, i know i am one LULW

This is one of the RARE times I would suggest seeing a movie together. Make small talk about movies and then suggest seeing a movie both of you would like (probably a comedy). It's not a date offer, just hanging out. When you agree on a day & time, ask if he wants to have a quick bite at Restaurant X (a place that is 1/2 step above fast food) before the movie.

If he agrees, you have a pleasant meal and during the movie, you whisper that you haven't had this nice of a time in quite a while. Then you slide your hand inside his upper arm and lean on his shoulder. It can be interpreted as simple affection or a dating move. Either way, he won't complain.

After the movie ends and you are saying goodbye, hug him with your arms around his waist longer than usual and tell him you had a wonderful time with him. The seed has been planted that you really liked spending time with him. Let's get that done first and talk about setting up an official date later.

Definitely use words. Along someone out with just weird expressions gets super awkward.

Be direct

If your friends, just tell him "hey, while I really value our friendship and enjoy that part of our lives, I think you're cute and want to go out on a date with you, how's about (insert idea for date)" since you're asking, you should suggest the date and at the very least split the cost.

Ask them in your most Shakespearean voice, "Whilst thou, per chance, permit me the exquisite pleasure of initiating a courting relationship with thee?" Then give them the finger pistols.

I think I watched a video saying not to put as a question, but also not like a demand either, more of as a statement.

For example: instead of "wanna go to the movies" or "your going to the movies with me" you would say "we should watch a movie sometime" and then go from there.

Hope I helped

Don't just say, hey wanna go on a datem or something like that. There's nothing wrong with it, but its kinda weird. Go with, what are you doing saturday? Wanna go see a movie or grab ice cream?

Casually

Just ask them out. It’s not that difficult. Ever wonder why some people seem to have more luck in the dating realm? It’s because they got over their fear of rejection.

You don’t have to be cute or clever, just sincere.

If she is a friend, tell her you like her and ask her to dinner drinks.

If she’s not a friend, ask her out for a drink or coffee if you prefer.

Girl here- i would start like, having conversations of drinks or food them slowly just asked. Wanna be maybe go for a drink Saturday? Or times like this picnic would be nice! Just the two of you!! DM if you need more help!

yeah, that's pretty good. Or if you wanna be more direct; "wanna go on a date, monday?"

You can’t just do it out of no where if you barely know each other. Get to know her first by talking to her. Then you can ask to grab a drink once that’s going well. If it doesn’t go well, don’t ask

If you have a conversation about something you both like or have in common, mention doing it together!

For example, if during the conversation you mentioned how you both really like sushi, tell her about a great place you know and that you want to take her there. Saying “hey! Since we both love this food, there’s an awesome place I know, want to go there with me on Friday?” Same goes with movies, music etc. If you have a conversation and mention how you both like horror movies or standup comedians, tell her you know this one you think she would like/one you’ve been dying to see and think she will like it too. Invite her over to watch this show with you.

This makes it easier to ask her out, and also a lot less awkward when starting the date cause you have something to talk about and a little bit of a plan for the evening! People like it when you introduce them to new things, and showing her what you are interested in as well as introducing her to something new is a good way to start it off!

As a girl, I would prefer it in person, it shows you are confident and brave! I actually recently have told my crush that I liked him, face to face. It takes some courage, but I think in person would be more meaningful. Just say “I want you to know that I’ve liked you for a while now, and I’m hoping that the feeling is mutual. If it is, will you say yes to a date this weekend, if it’s not, then that’s okay, let’s continue to be friends”

Wanna go out?

Eye contact and make hand signals to show you like her 😏👉👌😘

Many people do it by text, just type something about having feeling for her and how happy she makes you and click send

"You got plans this weekend other than seeing a movie with me?" Feel free to insert other date ideas instead of movie.

Photoshop dozens of photos of you guys together and sneak into her house and hang them up on the walls.

Block them. Ignore them.

They'll get the point.

'If you're free this weekend, I'd love to take you out for a drink or coffee.' Something like that. Personally, I wouldn't want too much of a commitment for a first date, so coffee or drinks would be perfect. In general, I feel it's better to be straightforward instead of beating around the bush.

Drop your pants

I like a simple approach.

“I’ve enjoyed this conversation. Can we continue it over a cup of coffee?”

All I know is you should start the sentence with, "To whom it may concern..."

Would you like to go to a food repository for nourishment and consumption of mind altering liquids then perhaps witness humans pretending to be other humans displayed on a large screen? If all goes well we could then proceed to the mating pods to practice procreation while using devices to prevent actual procreation

whatever feels natural and safe

Keep it simple, honest, and a little playful:

"Hey, I really enjoy talking to you — would you want to grab coffee sometime and continue this offline?"

People overcomplicate it. Confidence isn’t about flashy lines, it’s about being clear, calm, and genuinely interested.

Worst case? You made someone’s day by showing interest. Best case? You’re one coffee away from something great.

Just be straightforward and be like “hey I really like you and was wondering if you wanted to go on a date or something “

Honestly for my gf and I it was mostly talking a lot and then one day approaching the subject, and talking about our intentions with each other, and then we decided to get together. Don’t know if it’s just us, but in any way, there’s a thousand ways to ask someone out ! Even if you just blurt out “hey I like you, I’d like to date you”, it’s still okay. And if you wanna do a small gesture using something online, then that’s okay too ! Just breathe, you literally can’t mess it up.