As someone who looked distinctly UNhealthy my whole pregnancy: I think you should take this as a compliment.

I never got the glow. I vomited through all 3 trimesters. I lost weight so I didn’t look pregnant.

You look GOOD. Healthy is hot.

Oh, I lost 100+ pounds and then got pregnant. The body lingo is so messed up. Had one lady I work with straight up ask how much I’ve gained bc “holy cow you’re big”…ma’am. Had someone who reports to me ask if I was pregnant “because you’re getting thick.”

People think pregnancy is an open invitation to deflect their own body issues onto you. It’s sickening and frustrating. But I’ve been quick to state “thanks for helping my body dysmorphia!” Or the ever cool “thanks! Not like I don’t have a history of an eating disorder!” Makes an awkward convo even more awkward but secretly like having them feel like a dick.

Keep your head up, people are weird.

I believe it's a compliment and should be accepted as such. They are likely choosing to say you look healthy to avoid offending you by saying anything that could be interpreted as negative! I bet you look beautiful and strong and cute! The lil' bump was aways a nice precursor before I get massive 😅 but I'm 6 foot and 190 lbs pre-pregnancy so...yeah. Appreciate each stage for what it is and be thankful that your body can stretch and adjust to create new life! So cool!

healthy makes me think more like they think you’re glowing! second trimester glow is real!

I have gained 70 pounds so far. I was pretty freaking underweight at this time last year. But I have massive body image issues and have always struggled getting to a healthy weight in a healthy way. I’m at a pretty normal weight for my height and age and stage of pregnancy.

The comments I am getting have ranged from well meaning to downright offensive. But you know what? I just have given up on the expectation of people knowing what to say. At the end of the day, I know people are just weird about pregnancy. They are just excited for me and my family. And for bringing a baby into the world in a time that feels a bit scary. I feel like I am giving my community hope.

So I hear the comments for what they are, which is almost ALWAYS love. And frankly, it’s helping me heal my self image to take them at that.

my stepmom told me 5m pp "oh you still look pregnant!"... that comment really messed with me for a while

Almost a decade ago, well before I had my son, my MIL asked me if I was pregnant. I smiled and said “no, just fat,” and she sort of just stammered and I walked away. She never asked me again!

When I was four month pp my fiancés mom looked at me while holding my four. Onto old and said “Can we still expecting a football team out of you??”

Who the butts is clueless enough not to know not to ask someone if they're pregnant, as a general rule?? Aside from OPs FIL, I mean.

Ugh. My baby is almost 2 years old and my mom asked me at Christmas if I was pregnant. Nope. Just pudgy, thanks 🙄

Yes, I noticed that too. Funny that belly forgot that herself. just goes on to tell that if Belly & Jere ever get married, they would at some point end up having divorce sooner or later because of lack of spark etc etc whatever she is talking about in this scene. Those electric thunderbolts can only be given by Conrad to her nervous system. I think she even came to know about the nature of electricity only when she started loving or crushing on Conrad. Conrad is everything to her in that aspect. End of topic ! I just hope Taylor or someone just tells this to her asap.

Also little bit of unreliable narrator with thinking her parents weren't romantic with each other when she reminisces on them having too much wine, putting a song on and dancing around the kitchen. I'd say that's pretty romantic. Like she doesn't have a good view of her parents relationship. Or they just wanted her to say both lines, an excuse to do the fireworks line with Conrad and an excuse to explain her parents thinking she knows about them so even if they don't line up all that well story wise, it still moves the story along.

What do you mean there's no fireworks? He shot them directly at her

Good catch!

we had our 9 week ultrasound last week, and everything looks great, confirmed it with our midwife this morning :) they changed my estimated due date by 1 day, which really doesn't make a difference to me lol. Was so cool to see the little heartbeat fluttering on the screen! Great to share the positive US stories so we can balance out the sad/stressful stories that folks seem a bit more inclined to share...

I have my first ultrasound tomorrow and I’m really anxious. I’ll be 8 weeks and 3 days. I’ve read so many scary stories online and it’s really playing with my anxiety levels. Fingers crossed all goes well ❤️🙏🏻

So happy for you!! My first ultrasound also went well, fingers crossed that it will continue this way for us both in our future US 🙏🏼🩷

First ultrasound was Monday and it was beautiful 🥹 saw our bean and bean’s heartbeat. Measured two days ahead and they think I have an SCH but we look good besides that!

My husband has actually been slimming down lol He got a new job about 6ish months ago. He does a lot of manual labour all day around hot furnaces. He's been eating all the things right along with me, but his weight gain has been muscle. Unfair lol

Yep mine did lol. We had two babies, I gained 55lbs with each and subsequently lost it. He’s up 40 and not losing 😂

We’re Muslim so my husband has been fasting for Ramadan. Last year he lost 15 lbs and was all happy about it, this year he’s only lost 3 and acts all confused and sad LOL. He says I’m cooking more this year than last which I don’t really think is true, I have been making more heartier/comfort food type meals. I’ll be damned if he loses a bunch of weight while I’m over here gaining mwahahaha.

I wish.. My husband is a skinny legend 😒

Yep!

I’m 3 months post baby now and under my pre-pregnancy weight (thank you long walks pushing a heavy stroller)

Hubby looks like he’s 9 months along. Poor guy gained more weight then I did and hasn’t lost a single thing

So far Jenny and the writers have made so many of us HATE Belly and that's disappointing. My nieces hate Belly now as do adults who watch this show. Ugh! I understand character flaws etc but I can't stand making someone so stupid and emotionally immature to the point of CRINGE.

I think that's a wise theory and I hope you're right. It sets Jelly up as not a "toxic" relationship per se, but one that holds her back (and, again, too real for those of us who have ever been there). Jere is limited. He's immature, he's untrustworthy, he's stunted, and he needs Belly.

Where is the Belly of S1 telling Conrad "I don't want you to need me, I want you to want me?" She's long gone! Her behavior now is so much less considerate, less thoughtful. Younger Belly would not approve of this Belly. And maybe that's believable but, MAN, is it excruciating.

She is hating the weight gain!!! She can’t put others down about it anymore. “I’m so tiny” “my wrist is so tiny” “i can’t fit anything because i’m so small”

I also feel like she will get pregnant again

Pretty sure she’s purposely starving herself when she’s not eating out. She’s always bragged abt starving herself, “I just can’t eat when I have stuff to do” and now she’s blaming it on postpartum

YTA

You really expect us to believe you’ve never heard of the freshman 15?

He’s becoming an adult, so odds are his body is going to fill out. He can’t a teenager forever, accept that now.

While you’re at it, accept that it’s his body, not yours. You don’t have to live in his body. His body has no impact on you. You don’t need an opinion on it, and you aren’t entitled to one.

Deal with your own insecurity like an adult instead of projecting on to your son ffs.

YTA. It's your son's body, not yours, and "putting on a few pounds" is not immediately unhealthy. Dude, it's fucking college. He's likely going to put on some weight no matter what he does. What does it even matter as long as he's doing well in school, is a good person, and isn't actively dying?

I also love how you're just... cool with him doing drugs, but god forbid he try some different foods or something.

I would hate to have you as my father.

YTA for how you said it. You’re focus should be his physical and mental health, not his body’s appearance.

Also, he knows he has a belly, it’s his body. I never understood why people felt the need to tell others they got bigger… trust me the owner of the body knows.

YTA

That’s how to make sure your kids don’t come home for the holidays when you’re old and gray.

It sounds like he's testing how abusive he can be and then backing off when he goes too far. Can you express why you would want to stay in a relationship where one of you is actively trying to hurt the other?

You do know this has absolutely nothing to do with your stomach, or any other part of your body, right? One of the first words you used to describe your marriage was “volatile”. You have the power to not be in a volatile marriage. That might mean walking away from a man who refuses to change with you. You both need to do better.