I did not give or get anything at the bachelorettes I’ve been to/my own. If you want to get a gift I’d cover a meal or activity!

My favorite stuff to receive at bachelorettes are things that I'll use on the trip or are easily packable/usable when I return. Examples would be bottles of water, a gift card to a local coffee shop, mini alcohol bottles, travel sized Advil, liquid IV packets, etc.

I personally wouldn't use a hotel keychain or a cup, but I know some people love souvenirs like that so YMMV.

I gave personalized duffel bags. They were a bachelorette/ day of wedding gift. Everyone brought them to keep all their stuff at the venue/getting ready and it was really useful and wasn’t specific to a wedding!

i’d love a little gift bag (maybe a cute zipper pouch that’s not overtly “bridal”) with airplane bottles of booze (or even a cute little flask), hair ties, chapstick, those individual tylenol or advil packets, drink mix (love liquid iv)… kind of like a survival kit

So I was thoughtful in what I wanted to get my friends attending my bachelorette. I paid for their ferry tickets over to Nantucket from Cape Cod. Knowing it wasn’t the easiest place to get to. I then took them to one of the shops and asked them to pick out a sweatshirt that they liked. So we all have Nantucket sweatshirts that we like and hopefully will use.

So maybe something that is useful and helps defray the costs?

A round of drinks or a meal. Water bottles, coffee mugs, make up bags, candles etc. seem to all be the "go to" for this type of gift and they are all, quite frankly, junk that no one needs any more of. Paying for an activity or food/drink will go much further to show appreciation.

I just cleaned out my place for a move and realized all the junk I had accumulated from bachelorette party favors. Multiple make up bags, candles, lotions, hand sanitizers, scrunchies (in the wedding colors), mugs, sunglasses, tshirts. All such a waste of money in my opinion.

I’ve seen people getting those lululemon belt bags as bachelorette gifts and I think it’s really cute! But it depends on whether or not you think your friends would use something like that.

I’m not doing a bridal party, but 7 of my ladies friends and I are doing a bachelorette weekend where most of us attended college. I am going to write them each a letter touching on some of my favorite memories over the years and expressing how much I appreciate them 🥰

Same thing happened to me. They organized and paid for our travel, accommodation, and activities, it was all a big secret from me, and so thoughtful of them. I paid for everyone's meal and drinks one of the nights we were away.

I’d rather have you pay for a round of drinks or a dinner than basically any “keepsake.” A generous “I insist, this one’s on me” is the best especially when they’ve probably budgeted to cover you some.

I will say that I love little Polaroid pictures and you can get the Instax ones pretty cheap, I do cherish those little photos as a souvenir from girls’ trips.

IMO it’s too much to ask people to contribute to another gift in addition to the bachelorette which they are presumably also paying for. If there’s also a shower, a wedding gift and the bachelorette party itself IMO it’s already more than enough. 

just had my bachelorette and my group surprised me with a couple of fun sashes/accessories, and they paid for my weekend! i was thrilled by the accessories alone and was super surprised and touched they covered me for the weekend :)

I would say maybe a nice gift card for her to buy some nice lingerie for her wedding night or honeymoon? I’m not sure if she’s into that type of thing - but I would say anything that is wellness related like a massage or a nice perfume (only if you know her fav or most wanted fragrances) would be super cute and personalized.

Upvoting this one bec i do have the same upcoming event 🤭 so i might just follow your post OP 🫶🏼 and see any idea from redditors🥰

Thank you for posting this OP ☺️

I'd had a whole rant about how sexist wedding showers were and how all wedding registry suggestion list were all kitchen/houseware things that seemed so old fashion. So at my bachelorette my girls gave me this absolutely girly frilly apron that said "Mrs. Name" on it, with a note about congrats now being able to become a 1950s housewife. I'm talking pink polka-dotted ruffles. It was hilarious, but actually turned out to be super useful since I do like to bake.

Not saying you should buy your sister a monogramed apron. But anything silly/fun with a personal touch might be a good idea.

I got sweatshirts for the attendees of my bachelorette but they didn't say anything about my bachelorette on them, they were just cute merch for the town we visited. I have seen multiple friends who attended rewear it since.

Anything personal to me that shows you know me as a friend, that I'd either find sentimental and reminds us of our friendship, or at the very least, that you know I'd use in my everyday life. For example, if you have a bridesmaid who wears a lot of jewelry, a travel jewelry case would be nice, or a necklace with my initials or birth flower/stone/zodiac.

Personally I hate waste, so I'd skip t-shirts, but I know other brides love the bach party theme stuff, so depends on the vibe you're going for, I guess. I don't think any of your ladies are gonna miss having matching t-shirts with words & wedding puns on them, FWIW.

I am not a fan of anything that is bridesmaid/bachelorette branded. I will truly never use it again.

Honestly, my first preference is to skip spending money on physical gifts and instead have an activity subsidized. I was just on a bachelorette where the bride made a big point about how much she spent on our gift bags, but every activity was quite expensive and I would have appreciated that being paid for much more.

My second preference is something specific to our relationship. One of my friends who recently asked me to be a bridesmaid gave us each charm bracelets where the charms were unique to each of us based on our friendship with her. It was so sweet and lovely.

I don't want/need anything. When we add up all the money that is spent on useless and unnecessary junk items associated with pre-wedding events, it comes to a small fortune. Let's just get together and have fun.

I just want to have fun. Bachelorettes are not a gift giving event. If you truly want to make a good impression, take all the money you were going to spend on gifts and apply that to the bar tab. (Or if you don't drink then to the spa or whatever )

I went to a bachelorette party once where we all got matching tumblers (SMALL! Not like Stanley’s lol) engraved with our names. It was cute to have something matching for drinking together all weekend and because it said our names & not BRIDESMAID I used it for a long time afterward!

Gift bags definitely aren't necessary.

That said...

One bachelorette gift I received almost a decade ago and still use is a personalized (name embroidered) hanging travel makeup bag. I think it was from thirty-one.

I wasn't really a makeup person so didn't have one like it already, and it has come in handy over the years.

What are you doing at the party?

Any kind of supplies they can use during the party is always a good choice.

Anything they’ll be able to use for the wedding and reception is also a good choice.

Think hangover kit (bottle of water, Liquid IV packet, Alkaseltzer, Tylenol), sunscreen, bug spray, water bottle or cup to use for the weekend and getting wedding ready (add in some of those water flavor pouches from the Dollar Tree), special jewelry or hair accessories, cute slippers, socks, or flip flops, bathrobe, makeup bag, chapstick or lipgloss, nail polish to wear for the wedding, mints, gum, or tiktacks, cute sunglasses.

Depending on your budget, you could also do portable phone chargers/power banks, custom t-shirts, pocketbook to use for the party and wedding, gift card to cover their Uber or Lyft or something else for the party or wedding.

Instead of individual bags, you could spend the money on a coffee bar at the place you’re staying for the bachelorette party or getting ready for the wedding (coffee, creamers, syrups, etc) or mimosa bar (bubbly, juices, fruit, etc).

If you want to include everyone, do a “favorite things” gift swap where everyone brings their favorite thing $10 or less (or whatever price you set) for everyone. You could get a cute canvas or reusable bag to put everything in, but enlist the help of everyone to fill the bags. (For people flying, have someone local be the shipping address and bring the items to the bachelorette party if they’re able to so nothing is confiscated when going through security.)

Nothing labeling bridesmaid for sure I did Turkish towels with my bridesmaids names engraved and it was a HUGE hit

Yes thank you lol! It would be hard to engrave a towel

Consumables that can be used at the party - especially if it’s a trip. Makeup wipes, advil, liquid iv, hair ties, snacks, chapstick, etc.!

A ring holder, but something cute not just a standard white one that says Mrs. I bought my friend one that looks like an upside down mushroom and the ring goes over the stem. It fits into her fairy garden/ plant house style decor and she keeps it on her kitchen counter next to the sink for when she takes her rings off to do dishes.

Gift card for a date night with her almost hubby. Manicure/ spa day.

You can do like a spa day and then go to a sip and paint or some kind of art thing that you guys can make together and keep 🤷🏻‍♀️

What about a necklace with a stone that represents the month she's getting married?

Maybe a necklace with her favorite photo inside! The piece could project the image onto any surface and would be a meaningful gift.

How about a packet of seeds? Maybe the bride has a favourite flower or colour to help link them to her?

Or a little photo frame with an instruction for each person to put in their favourite photo from the party?

Honestly, I would not want a goodie bag. Save those for a child's birthday party.

If you must, focus on consumables. Booze, treats, etc. Please don't get anything with "bridesmaid", "team bride", etc. on them because those will never be worn again (just like the bridesmaid's dresses).

Those safety keychains. The ones with a window breaker, seat belt cutter, whistle, personal alarm. You can actually get cute looking ones or make them, and in my opinion no vehicle should be without one. Not just for if you end up in water, but also in an accident or if it lights on fire, or you come up on one. So many people don’t have a window breaker and they are not expensive and can be really small. I’d also do individual pack face masks, some tea, fuzzy socks

I love the idea of focusing on consumable items! Maybe try looking for local artisans who make bar soaps/lotions/bath fizzies?

Mini jars of local jam or honey. Bonus points if it’s a treat that can be tied into what the bride likes.

Morning of getting ready i paid for hair and makeup for everyone and then got them personalized makeup bags that my mom’s best friend made

I’ve been on the receiving end twice. I got a super goop sun screen mini, chapstick, a cheap bracelet x2, lip gloss, a candle. Nothing I was crazy about except the sun screen lol

The gifts I gave to my party included earrings to wear at the wedding, robes to wear getting ready, small makeup bags with their initials on them, and a nice wrap they could wear over their dress if they wanted (winter wedding). As well as a personalized note thanking them for standing with me and telling why I love them!

My MOH is doing a lot that I don’t know about but I personally bought mine ear muffs, faux fur bags, mini oxygen canisters, socks, liquid IV, those hot hands toe warmers, and gummy bears.

I have been on so many Bach trips where I got stuff I’d never use and feel like it’s so wasteful. I tried to be thoughtful and make sure what I gave could be used on our trip (skiing) 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mine was at a beach so I got them all a cute beach bag that’s reusable, a beach towel, and inside the beach bag I put some little goodies like a hangover kit, bath bombs, stickers of things each individual liked, makeup sponge, hair accessories, etc. just little things! And then my MOH got everyone sunhats

I have to be honest, I did not give gifts at my bachelorette. I didn’t even know bachelorette gifts are a thing, and I don’t know of any other brides giving them. Maybe it is a cultural/regional thing? I did give my party gifts and hand written cards on the day before the wedding.

My best girl friends and I all bonded over a mutual love of Harry Potter, so my bachelorette was Harry Potter themed and they gave me a few cute HP/HP bach themed gifts (a little Hufflepuff throw pillow, a cup that says “Accio Wine”, and a “she found a keeper” shirt and banner)

Are there any interests you all share with her that you could theme the party around? That could help with gift ideas!

I think the marital advice bit, while well meaning, just doesn't land right with a lot of people, especially if you're all the same age. She's presumably been with her partner a while, she's grown, she knows how to function in an adult relationship.

Maybe you gals can start a recipe book for her with your best recipes.

Maybe you can call back to something meaningful to you all from growing up.

You could always put together a photo book on Shutterfly and have empty pages where you can all write her notes about the photos, memories, or how you feel about her.

I think well wishes are really sweet