Yeah Hinge and Bumble are good starters, you can access the vast majority of your likes through free swiping.

Eharmony and Match are supposed to have people who are serious, although you’ll have to pay some big chunks of money. You can’t do a damn thing without paying so be aware of that. I was blown away by the prices but for someone who wants to do something different and find like minded people, you have to sacrifice sometimes.

The ones your mom’s generation would use. Think match and OK Cupid

Eharmony. I'm a 46 yo male. The women I connected with on there have clearly been looking for relationships as I have, and the app matches you with people who share a lot of commonality. I met my current girlfriend through that app.

There have been serious women on Match as well, and that one's been okay.

I'm not sure what age you're looking for, though, and I think your success on these apps may depend heavily on your age range and location.

Looking between 26-32 y/o

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less so to do with apps and more so your ability to use good judgment, screen profiles, read people.

hire a dating coach if needed, get help with your profile.

Problem is, most people on tinder are also on hinge, bumble, etc. etc. you’re pretty much getting all the same people on every platform if you live in a major city. But I’d say maybe hinge is best bet, regardless

Hinge by a long shot even if a lot of people do just use it to find people to screw nowadays.

Don't let those sites scam you. Be careful before you click.

Hinge. Requires the most effort, in my opinion. I met my girlfriend off there. Lots of details to filter and the 8 like limit makes you put more effort in. Also, that limit is beneficial to men as women don't get AS slammed with likes as they do on tinder.

As a guy, I'm asking about the same with women. Short sample size for me (only been single for 6 months after a mutual ending of my previous 17 year long marriage) but my experience so far on dating apps has been a) women who match and don't say anything, even after I eventually send a message. b) women who only give 1-2 word answers (where are the people who can/want to actually hold conversations?). c) women who may send a message or two every 6-8 days and then eventually just vanish without actually even establishing dialogue. FWIW I understand that I am 42, I am a dad of one (who lives with me five days a week), so I am already at a massive disadvantage. Only had any "success"? (if you call it that) on Hinge. It feels women aren't seriously looking, which as a whole may be the case (and the ones that are are in the minority).

It’s anecdotal but every person with a serious relationship off the apps seems to have met on hinge.

I met a lot of non-serious weirdos on there too but it just seems to be slightly better.

Because it is the biggest platform and has hence the highest user count. That doesn't mean it's best suited for something serious. You'd need the serious relationships per user ratio and not the absolute numbers of serious relationships.

Relationship / dating coach here. I agree with you unfortunately.

I advise my clients to go for matchmaking services instead

Really? I've been hesitant about getting it because of the fame as an app full of men just looking for casual sex. I might have to check it out...

My brother met his wife on hinge. I (F) have altogether given up on the apps.

When I met my wife I was on Match, Eharmony, POF and Zoosk. We met on Zoosk. I was 45 when we started dating and she was 47. I don’t know what younger guys seem to have against real relationships. I hear many women complain that young men just want FWB. Well when I started dating I knew what I wanted and my wife wanted the same thing, a relationship that had the potential to turn into a marriage. We got married 6 months after we met. Just celebrated our 1 year anniversary in April. Don’t give up on what you’re looking for and don’t settle for FWB if you’re really wanting a relationship.

Bumble has a filter option where you can only look at men who have chosen "long term relationship " as what they are looking for..doesn't mean every single guy is being honest but it helps

There are serious guys on those apps. You just have to weed through the crap

That might be a good thing. Filters out those who would abuse that option looking to trick girls into a quick lay.

I think Bumble, Hinge and CMB is about the best you'll be able to find unfortunately. Its true a lot of people there are looking for something serious, but you might just be stuck persevering until you find someone suitable that is.

I am currently on hiatus from using dating apps and met my last boyfriend organically, but among the women I know, the younger ones (25-30) all met their long-term boyfriends on Coffee Meets Bagel, while the older ones (over 40) met their husbands on eHarmony. So I would recommend trying either of those, in addition to Hinge, though CMB seems to be more popular in big cities (not sure what size town you’re in).

As a female, you'll get an insane amount of matches on any dating app. It'll be up to your discretion and judgement to determine if any of the potential partners you're talking to is also looking for something serious.

All of the free dating apps just had guys hitting me up for casual hookups. eHarmony is the first site I've actually found men to date and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months so far who I met on there

If you're non white it's an uphill battle from the download, I think most women use the race filters lol

I think Hinge is your best bet

Is this a thing? I'm mixed and so far I've had a decent amount of likes/matches on Hinge.

All the apps are the same and you can find something serious on any of them, imo. Make a profile on all of them and try them out.

I met my boyfriend on Tinder, so i think you can try to expand your options to see who you meet on each platform. I didn’t have gold or anything btw. So I say depend on how you feel, go for it! Good luck!

Well from a guys POV, i have been on Match for 3/4 months now, Im a really attractive guy (not my words, words of other women) I have sent around 100 thought provoking messages, for example asking about something that intrigued me on their profile, Had 0 Responses. Online Dating for Men is awful because there are around 5 times more men on the apps than women, So IMO Men should stay away form dating apps and focus on IRL meetings, Women will have more success on Dating apps but generally only if you are deemed 'attractive' otherwise you'll be in the same boat as most guys getting 0 matches.

I like coffee meets bagel

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If using tinder or bumble specify in your bio you are looking for something serious. You may still get matches who ignore that, but at least you are upfront. Those apps are largely for less serious or casual dating.

I met my (now) wife on Match.

It can happen randomly. I met my wife on Facebook. We had mutual friends, and I actually decided to make my profile pic an actual picture of me. She saw it, decided to "slide in my dms" to say that she taught I was handsome and prayed that I was well and had a good day. That was 6.5 years ago. We've been married 3.5 years and have had 2 kids. So apps are cool, but that one for you could be in a friend's, friend's list just waiting to randomly see your picture....

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The real world

There is this app called Real Life. It is the best app I ever tried for dating

I don't know if apps are dire for women but they certainly seem to be for us. None of them have worked for me and I've tried a large number. I've been trying singles parties and finding a real dearth of women despite the number of serious men attending.

Hinge seems to work for my (good looking) friends

If you go on those apps set your boundaries and if they cross them, drop'em. Communicate what your looking for in a relationship. Wish you the best in your journey!

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I don't. I'm tired, boss 

I had luck with Bumble and Hinge. Tinder also worked well but that definitely leant heavily towards more casual dating in my experience.

Meetme.com, pof .

Some of my lady friends used bumble with success stories.

Officially Hinge, but I’ve had more success on Tinder. People say more outlandish crazy stuff on Tinder but you can weed out the “just here for hookups” types easier than the other apps where some men pretend.

So my vote would be to use Hinge and Tinder. Hinge requires a more thoughtful profile but definitely keep at least one prompt playful.