I just came out and said it. I was really nervous. I think he was flattered but as he has a gf, obviously he doesn't feel the same.

Valentine's Day. Wrote her a poem. She only saw me as a childhood friend, but she lets herself be vulnerable with me now. I'm someone she trusts. So even if you get rejected, there could be a silver lining. At least it'll be out there.

I’ve never confessed to liking someone to be honest. I’ve always been too scared. But in terms of what other have done with me, don’t write a letter. Tell them in person and have a conversation about it. Sometimes people are hard to read especially if it’s in text or a note. In person you can really gauge their response and you can see how they feel about your confession. I think it’s sweeter in person too because even if you’re nervous, I think they’ll appreciate it. And then you can talk about it especially if they like you too it can be a whole conversation about next steps and planning a date etc

By being horribly stupid and crazy. After gathering enough courage after 1 year of following her, trying be friends with her, etc I finally dm her oh her omg cute selfie post ( I got out of control) that I like you and baam no response. A dealy silence from her side. She was confused ( she responded by question mark) I got nervous and scared after hours of deadly silence and finally to control the matter from getting ugly I said I like you as a sister. 😅😭😅

Well somehow yeah without even saying a word hahaha

You need to try to increase your chances of success as much as possible beforehand. You become close friends with your crush, as much as possible. And then when you two are really close, start flirting a bit/hinting that you like him/her. Then, when it feels appropriate, tell the person how you feel.

You’ll feel it. It shouldn’t feel rushed, or forced. And it should be honest and genuine, confident but not cocky.

I know it seems weird to hear this, but u/ChieftessStorm is absolutely right. You'll be compelled to do it one day suddenly, and you'll know it's the right moment. It depends on each person, situation, and time and place, so it's gonna be pretty unpredictable. For me, it was when I realized that I only had about eight to nine months left with her before I would have to say goodbye to her as she left for college, and I didn't want her to leave without me asking her out.

Best of luck!

Have a nice day.

Don’t confess anything unless you’re sure they feel the same way. If you aren’t sure, then ask them out. If they say no, just say ok cool and play it like it’s not a big deal.

Idk I didnt confess my friends just told her

my pants were bulging. did the talking for me.

I killed them and their body is in my fridge right now

A friend once said to me: You only confess to those who you already have a romantic relationship, or you might be seen as a creep. He was right, in my experience. Invite your crush out first, and only after you have a thing going on, then you confess.

And when you confess, then try to make it a good memory. Think about what your SO likes and go with that.

Don’t be in a hurry. Be respectful and have respect for yourself. You got this OP

Don’t just say ”I like you”. Make them feel special by elaborating on WHY you like them.

It’s more intimate if you’re able to do it in a one-on-one situation.

Most importantly, be mentally prepared for both the positive and negative outcomes. Hope for the best… but be prepared for the worst.

Good luck OP!

It's okay to confess through text, but remember this it look more sincere and respectful if you confess in person. They'll appreciate it more. Just make sure you're also ready for whatever they're going to say in return.

Oh my gosh, that's so exciting! Congratulations on being so brave! And I think text is fine if you're both shy and struggle to process. It gives him breathing space without forcing a response from him before he's ready.

No update until now !!

i’m working up the courage to tell mine as well so i’ll be in the same position. just take your time and look at the response once you’re ready!

Welp no update I’ll see you in the gym brother 🙏

For me it wasn't a direct confession, but a letter + gift I wrote for her on valentine's day. It was fairly easy

1. Spend a month accepting the very possible reality that you'll be rejected

2. Get past the "Night before" sleep (always brutal)

3. Pretend ur on auto pilot (if you have autism, just 'activate' it if u get my gist) and walk up

4. Deliver note and gift, ask her to read it later. Be very clear and concise, "I made/bought this gift for you, please read the letter when you get home"

5. Go on with your day

At the end of a day hangout that we spent together, I was about to just end it with a hug and a thank you, but two years I had been holding it in. Trying to see if he felt the same, and I finally just couldn’t do it anymore ~ waiting and wondering. I had seen the signs that it might be mutual. So I just blurted it out! I do not regret! We are dating now, working toward something special!

I didn't even confess to her directly. One time at work, the admins were asking us who our crushes were, and I told them it was her, then they told her. It's alright tho.

the feeling of straight up asking is nerve-wracking but it would always be a 'hey, i understand if you don't feel the same way but i just want to let you know i like you a lot, if you do feel the same would you consider testing the waters before dating?'

i get that it's a bit downer-y to essentially shoot yourself down before any response is given but i'd always want someone to know that i'm not going to hassle them if they didn't feel the same, especially if you/them/both of you respect each other enough to want to keep the friendship going

As soon as I realized I was developing feelings for my last crush, I gave myself 7 days after the realization to confess.

Once those 7 days were up, I got alone together with her and I flat out told her: ”I’ve recently started developing feelings for you”. Short and to the point.

It wasn’t easy. In the hours leading up to it, my mind was going a mile a minute. My brain kept thinking about every single possible scenario and how I was going to react to each one.

I started having doubts but what pushed me to go with it was to think about the RELIEF I’ve had once I did it. Crushing definitely stresses you out both emotionally and mentally; almost like this giant weight on your shoulders. Regardless of the outcome, I was going to get that relief.

Although I got rejected almost immediately, I’m glad I did it because not only did I understand where I stood with her, but that weight was gone. I felt free.

Well he is about to leave anyways you should pull him aside and do it

Please take my apologies I don’t mean to jump on your thread my profile karma is low so I can’t post myself and I just want to scream at this moment in time. I just know how it feels at the moment I am head over heels in love with a man I am now currently no joke extremely love sick. I am so nauseous that I can barely eat have been for days my head just going in circles. What started all this was I tried face timing him I was only on it for just over 2 minutes with him I got so nervous I couldn’t even think straight. So I went off it he asked if I was ok and I couldn’t even get the nerve to talk to him for 2 days. After the 2 days I apologised to him and said I wouldn’t face time him for a while and he goes “ohhhh but I would like to face time you some time” and I’m just like you make me too nervous and I can’t think straight. And he goes why do I make you so nervous and I’m like do I have to explain. He goes yes please. And I’m like you’re a smart guy you can figure it out and he’s like I’ve got a feeling I know what it is but I want you say it and I’m like Why? He goes because it will be nice to hear and I’m like well you can figure out if you’re right or wrong then night handsome. And he goes “nooo please tell me xxx” I haven’t spoke to him since I’m so love sick over this man. At this moment in time I am cleaning my house like a manic maid to try to die down my feelings where I then end up feeling worse because I am over exercising so much.

I guess this was what I really needed to get my overthinking self to quiet down.... Thank u

This is actually really inspiring, I think everyone needed to hear this. Thanks dude. (Still too cowardly to tell him but yk maybe one day)

maybe it is a good idea to try to spend more time with them, since it could be a little bit awkward if you confess out of the blue. Hang out more, and maybe confess on one of the meetings. As for what should you say... "I like you" should be sufficient and not too awkward

Having a crush on someone else not a easy thing. I have had a crush on lots of different people over the years. I have tried to understand what and how plus why I have a great crush on a person. Not a a easy thing.

Same here....just classmates...but i've been building up my confidence.....just try hanging out with her and then just build up courage

Just ask lol, easier to be embarrassed for a couple days than regret something for years

1. Tell your crush you want to talk about something. Don't make it a big deal. Tell them that you want a one on one conversation somewhere.

2. Make your crush comfortable with jokes. Don't be too quick to tell them "I like you". Joking will put your crush in a frame of mind, and make them more receptive to whatever you want to say.

3. After the jokes, spit it out. Say something like "I wanted to tell you that I have a crush on you or "I really like your company, I want you to know I have feelings for you".

4. When you confess, look them in the eye and relax your body. Don't stand too close to them or look at the floor.